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Do you trust yourself implicitly? Think on it for a moment. Girls when you buy that new dress and your sister, or mother, or lover says, “I don’t like that on you,” How do you feel, do you take a second look in the mirror and think, well its not as nice as I first thought! And then you take the dress off and throw it in the corner feeling disgruntled and wishing they had never made the comment. Somewhere deep inside you, you blame them for putting the doubt in you mind, but let me tell you a secret…. “The doubt was there all the time, they didn’t put it there, it has been there all your life, just waiting for you to one day realize it is the phantom that keeps all your hopes and dreams and plans from manifesting.” What ever experiences we create in our lives, they come because we think in a certain way, poverty is the end result of thinking in a certain way, wealth is the result of thinking in a certain way, the key here is that “That certain way, can be changed through becoming aware, and making choices we can move from poverty to wealth simply by an adjustment in the way we think. The most profound thing I have ever found is that when something is based upon TRUTH. Absolute truth is always supportive to give us an abundant life. Its only things we have learned to think of as true that are in fact not true that create the poverty and struggle in our lives. Lets do a different scenario, a man who wants to make his living as a singer, his family think he is crazy and should go to university, but he has a positive image of his life and who he is and what he wants to become, somewhere in his soul, he knows he was born to be a star, and he is a star, and he does not need anyone’s approval to be a star. In his mind he is already there, and so he just goes about his way, learning to hone his skills with music, singing to anyone who will listen whether they think he is good or not is not important, what is important is the love he has for his music, and the rock solid belief he has that he is unique and he was born to sing. No matter what challenge arises, he just thinks well how can I get through that, and what can I do? His focus is on what is good, what he has, what he wants, he has no time for thoughts of failure, in his mind that just does not exist. When asked how come he became a star, his answer is, I just knew I could, and it’s that simple. You see one of the hardest things for people like you and me to understand is the absolute truth that, “when we think thoughts that are full of doubt and self abuse, they will manifests their self as obstacles in our lives ,these obstacles which we then must overcome!” Self doubt is not based upon truth! It’s a lie someone has taught you to believe as the truth about who you are! The challenges in life will keep coming thick and fast, until you believe in yourself, you know of whom you are shines so brightly that your future can’t help but instantly manifest. If you can grasp what I have said in that last paragraph, your life will be instantly transformed. What does this have to do with Grief/rejection you might ask? Well let me explain, in childhood often we are wounded by events, comments of thoughtless people, things beyond our control, teachers, poverty, embarrassment, rejected love, abandonment, abuse and the list goes on. Many psychologist and psychiatrists believe that our lives are formed in the first 6 years of life, those early years place the first wounds on the psyche, the limits of perception that for the rest of our lives we battle to overcome. The Grief/rejection of the first wound, the rejection grief of a disgruntled father telling you to go and take off your mothers shoes before you break your neck when you thought you looked so beautiful, the first wound of a parent who didn’t have time to give you a hug when you felt insecure, simply because they were too preoccupied, they never knew you perceived that as an ultimate rejection, and instantly became unsure of who you were in the world. Grief/rejection has many forms, subtle forms, and not so subtle forms, it can hit us like a buss, or it can haunt us like a phantom creating bad relationships and unnecessary challenges, that have us feeling like we are cursed or just plain and simple dumb or no good. The events of our lives do color our thoughts and how we think in a certain way is derived from those experiences and thoughts. The Question: I want to put something to you right now; I want to ask you to think in a different paradigm. If you had an identical twin, brought up in the exact same circumstances chances are you would still live completely different lives, have you ever thought about things like this? Have you ever questioned why your brother or sister of best friend has become financially and emotionally successful and you haven’t? After all they live in the same neighborhood, attended the same school, you may have had the same parents? But why is it that ones persons life can be so far removed from that of another, when you had the same background, same financial opportunities, same schooling? You may say it’s just personality differences, you may even say its luck but I want to share something with you that will change your life, its none of the above, the difference is how we think! That’s right, the difference is how we perceive and process the information in our minds and this is what creates our lives, it even creates our health, our financial success and ultimately the life we lead. The life you are living right now, right this instant is the direct results of how you have perceived and responded to life and its challenges, I know most people don’t want to think about that, they immediately feel overwhelmed and confused, and may even react badly to what I have just said, but that doesn’t matter, in fact if you have a gut reaction of any sort to my words, that is good. That means I am stirring something inside you to seek further knowledge of how to manifest the life you want, rather than the life you have. While ever we are unclear of our own motivation, unclear of our own sense of uniqueness and destiny, life will keep presenting challenges that will require us to get honest – to look inside our hearts minds and sometimes even reach deep into our souls to find our truth. Healing our lives means we need to not only change our thinking, but understand how our emotional reaction and perception of events will always dictate the end result which is our life experience. That means we have to untangle the subtle mental associations that are the result of every incident that has caused us grief in our long and lonely lives. I have a free 38 minute Audio Mediation online for you to use to help you overcome this. TRUE WEALTH. The very first thing you need to understand is that, “Thought is substance, and this substance, projects into our reality, creating our lives to be what ever we need them to be in order that one day, one day we reach a point inside of our selves that we truly understand that we are the creators of our life experience and that experience is all the result of our alignment with our reality core – that sense of being clear – having no doubt – and being uniquely individual. When you can perceive that every soul on earth is uniquely individual, you instantly are free from the expectations of what and who you think you should be. All of the people in the world who have achieved a standard of excellence all have no doubt – people like Bill Gates, Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, Eleanor Roosevelt, Einstein, Stephen Hawking, people who have achieved the impossible all knew their own potential long before the world acknowledged it. Why would you want to stay trapped in someone else’s life? Why would you set the standards of what you can achieve for your life based upon someone else who has a mediocre life? Why do you believe you are worth less than having all that you desire? Well right now I feel I have moved a little a head of myself, and you might say what has any of this to do with starting over? What has all this got to do with the fact that my husband just left me and I have no money to pay the rent and feed the kids? Well it has plenty to do with it! If you believe no one will give you a job – you can bet the universe will accommodate you and make it dam hard for you to find a job, but may be, just maybe you are really like that artist and don’t want a job, you want to be a famous artist, but don’t believe you really can be? Is that true? Do you see what I am getting at here? Often the reason we end up in situations that fall apart is that we shouldn’t have been there in the first place, but we are there because we were emotionally needy, or driven by our sexual desires, or wanted someone just to take care of us?I just want to clarify here before I upset a few people, that someone dying suddenly does not come into this category, but still if you have lost someone who has been a major part of your life, you still have to find a way to start living again, or you will be more dead than the person who has in fact died!
This means you have to change. Is change good or bad? Who knows, every day of our lives is just an accumulation of seconds, and how we perceive those seconds and the choices we make depend upon the information we have at hand. I tend to be a believer in destiny, I believe no matter what path we take in life we grow, sometimes our choices make our path a harder climb but then I believe somewhere inside of our selves, if we face the challenges with the right attitude then we become stronger people and wiser for the experience. |
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