TRUITY Spiritual Mentoring

When your feeling the pain of rejection and life just has not worked out how you thought it should, its easy to plummet into the depth of despair and in doing so become depressed and self abusive.   I am writing this because I want to help you, not hurt you, I want to make you think, in some ways to shock you so you get angry enough to choose to see things how they truly are, that life is precious.  That you and only you alone have the key to snap out of the patterns which have kept you suffering, you have everything you ever could need to rise above every challenge right inside of you. But to do that, you will need to have courage, and you will need to firstly learn to respect yourself, take care of yourself and be honest with yourself. 

Its time to stop being helpless its time to stop punishing yourself, its time to live.  When I find things getting difficult I always get myself back on track by asking myself one simple question.  "What is it you really want?" In asking that question it sort of allows my instincts to refocus and realign to my destiny, or physical goals.

Often people get overwhelmed when life is not going to plan, but sometimes not going to plan is the plan, and the spirit of our knowing is often asking us to grow, develop, learn new skills and above all respect and honour ourselves.  So many people indulge in negative debasing thoughts, such as, "I always knew I was not good enough," "Why would anyone like me." "I knew I couldnt do that," "I am just stupid." this is self abuse,  and did you know that Self Abuse can take on many guises, it can be as simple as not eating, or binge drinking or it can be to as complex as becoming turning to drugs to drown out the noise in your head and escaping the chaos and then there’s the self inflictor, mutilating yourself because your so angry with yourself and everyone else for how life has become. 

Are you hurting yourself because of some stupid action you may or may not have done?  How can you deal with being so angry with yourself, without destroying yourself and driving yourself deeper and deeper into self abusive patterns?  What are the signs of self abusive patterns of behavior?  

Did you know people often get really angry at someone else, when in fact the person they are most angry with is the one who looks back at them in the mirror?  I recently had one of my staff absolutely loose it after I had without knowing confronted her with her greatest fear.  She feared rejection, and would do anything to please everyone. One day while just going about my day, I found her smoking in a non smoking area, (trivial I know) but the government has strict regulations here in Australia about such things. I caught her out and she absolutely freaked out, she had let me down, and knew if anyone else had seen her she could have been in real trouble.  This lady is supposed to be a role model for the rest of the staff, and she knew she had let me down. The funny thing was I became the target for her anger, when in fact she was most angry with herself for being so stupid and smoking in front of the other staff.  Like the old saying we always hurt the one we love, - but this is actually true, if we dont live up to our own standards, we often without realising it become angry and depressed.  I have used this simple story just to prompt your thinking.  People give themselves a hard time by not honouring what they know is the right thing to do, and by not having the courage to stick to that honesty.

The essence within all of us is always aligned to truth and self honour, and many of the situations we unwitingly create are the result of our spirit trying to pull us back to self, to do what we know is right, to not sacrafice ourselves to keep othes happy and to grow in courage and spirit to become the most we possibly can be in this life.

Self Abuse Signs:

Some of the signs are simple things, feeling depressed, not eating, crying all the time, not wanting company, not wanting to get out of bed, not wanting anyone to interfere, not wanting to live.   Putting things in perspective is the first and most important step of all, first write in a journal what you are thinking, feeling and get some of the hurt out on paper, simple and it is the first step. 

Now ask yourself this question, do you want life to keep on like it is or do you want it to change?  If you want it to change and get better I can help, but you have to be prepared to firstly realize, what is done is done, it can not be undone, you know going over and over it in your mind is not going to help anyone, not you, not them, not the situation all it will do is attract more of that same energy to you, the energy of loss, pan and reinforcing your worthlessness to the world by showing how much you can hurt yourself.    

Sometimes we dont even realise what keeps us trapped, often we get to the point we just want the pain to stop, and to give up.  But is giving up what its about?  No, if you give up things will only get worse, the answer lies in changing your perception, becoming aware, of just how much  your fragile emotions have keept you at the mercy of everything and everyone.

One young woman said her emotional turmoil was her Karma, and someone had told her there was nothing she could do about it.  I know for someone to say something like that, they are very ignorant.  Karma, ceases the moment you become aware ~ so the minute you gain understanding Karma is cleared. Karma is not something that persists indefinately.  The moment you realise what you have been contributing to the situation it will stop.  If your emotionally addicted to love, then deal with it, if your addicted to drugs, then be honest, look at what you were trying to escape in the first place and make conscious choices, to overcome those issues and get professional help.  There are a hundred and one ways to improve your life.

The sad thing is most people suffer in order to get the courage to change. Yes thats right, its only when you have hurt so much you cant stand it anymore that you get the courage to leave that abusive relationship, or to let go of something that is really not good for you.  Pain is a tool to grow, but you dont need to grow through pain and suffering.  You can grow in consciousness, through having a purpose to your life, or through helping yourself get educated.

Dont buy into the helpless syndrome, you are more powerful than any living thing, and every person has the ability to change and heal their lives - all they need is the want and the courage to be true to theirself.

Many Blessings everyone.  TRUITY