TRUITY Spiritual Mentoring

Stop before you send that email!

Email can be a curse or a blessing, it saves us thousands of $ every day in postage costs and phone costs, keeps us in touch in an instant.  Emails flying round the globe in the flash of an eye, once that button is pushed it gone.   Ever pushed that send button and then had that horrid sinking feeling in your gut of “Oh I just shouldn’t have done that?”  But that email has gone off into cyber world the place of no retrieval, and it’s too late.  You said it, you wrote it and now you just are going to have to wear it.  Have you ever been so angry that you have just wanted to tell someone exactly what you think of them?  Ever just wanted to hurt someone so bad that you don’t care what you say, you just want to strike out and hit hard?  So if you’re someone who does hit that send button and regret it later the following may just help you change that bad habit into something more positive.  

Did you know that emotions are addictive?  The hormones produced by the brain when were happy, or when were sad are just as addictive as hard core drugs, the only difference is we don’t need to go and buy them, they are home made, in our brain by the very thoughts we think.  Often our behaviour is driven by our need for drama, and the drama is created in our own perception to feed our habits!  So do you have an emotional habit, a habit that drives you to be someone who is always angry, always flying off the handle, always over the top? 

Think for just a moment about your friends, what do you think of them when they loose it? Is there any dignity in that behaviour? Does it show they are powerful and in control?  9 times out of 10, when ever you over react, I can guarantee you will regret what you have done and yes you will feel darn stupid, that charge of adrenalin may have made you invincible and super human for one minute, but sooner or later you will come down to earth and then feel so bad about jumping to that conclusion, or saying things you didn’t mean. So just for a minute let’s revisit the circumstances that lead you to let your fingers do the typing and your emotions to pour out on paper. 

What happened?  How did you feel when you had cooled down?  Did you feel justified or stupid, did you regret what you had done or not?    Loosing control and behaving badly is definitely not cool.  When were young often the emotions control every aspect of our lives, we respond accordingly by buying that dress we cant afford, falling in love (or lust) with someone we just know is a rat, or simply eating that huge serving of fries and ice cream and then wondering why our waist line is bulging. As we age and learn our behaviour changes and we begin to understand just how much damage we do to our own lives by letting our emotions overtake our rational thinking.  Mind you, emotions are fantastic things, they take us on incredible journeys, of highs and lows, up and down, responding to everything in our circle of influence, running like a rollercoaster, and often giving us courage to rush in where angels fear to tread. Only problem is you can guarantee that if you do allow your emotions to run your life, and you do keep acting on impulse then it will make your life extremely turbulent and often very unhappy.    

Living life totally living on the drama of emotions has its down side, that’s for sure, when you act irrationally things are always blown out of proportion, then when you cool down, you have to face up to whatever it was that you did and then you feel lousy and guilty and mentally give yourself a hard time.  When you give yourself a hard time, telling yourself how stupid you were it then lowers your self esteem and lowers your trust in yourself.  So isn’t it better just to wait, write a draft email, walk away and then come back the next day? If your still angry then find a way to express it like a person who has control of their life, and in charge of their choices.  

Remember; there is a time and a place for everything, and there are ways to do things right.  No matter what anyone else may have done, or you think they have done, NEVER give anyone the satisfaction of seeing you loose your control and becoming a raving idiot.  Hold your power; walk away with your head held high and with dignity.   You remember when you were a child, someone either your teacher, mother, grandparents would have tried to tell you, don’t do anything when your angry, count to 10 step back and take a deep breath.  Well that is the wisest thing you can ever do for yourself, count to 10 take a breath and consciously choose how you will respond – its your life your choice!