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What makes you feel good? 

Is it your spouse, your parents, your job, your freedom, your finances, your hopes for the future or all of the above?  For some people they spend mega bucks in a never ending quest for that solution to “feeling good.”  The feel good syndrome thanks to media has grown more and more directly linked to money, love, status and who you know.   Magazines encourage the addictions and would have us believe that if we are not swimming in cash or head over heals in love then we are doing something wrong, when in fact 95% of the population are just like us.  Lives are often shattered because people like you and I just cant live up to the unrealistic expectations of life.  

So many young people in particular feel like failures, when in fact they are far from it.  Even new age media hype up things like “The Secret,” telling you that it’s your fault that you are not rich and abundant and smiling all the way to the bank. Sadly so many people spend even more $ trying to be what the books and videos tell them they have to be only to end up even more hurt and lost for the experience.  There are some people, who get lucky, and yes they do change their lives, but generally these people improve their lives simply because they break the patterns of negativity that have kept them in a downward spiral.  The magic is they once again begin to feel good about themselves, and once you feel good about yourself then miracles happen.  

My aim with this article is to help you put things in perspective, and maybe just maybe, we can help you on the way to genuinely “feeling good.”   Would you like to simply “Feel Good,” irrespective of circumstances? Do you think it’s possible?  How about we take a little time and shed some light on the real issues behind the need to feel good, and how we can feel good without needing anyone else to boost our ego, or spending money.

Have you ever noticed that people who have astoundingly successful lives all have tons of self confidence? And, on the other side of the coin did you know that people who lack self confidence and self worth often $ over spend?  So where do you fit? Are you one of those unstoppable self confident people, who just know you, will win at the end of the day?  Or when things go wrong do you plummet into self doubt and self abuse? 

It’s often as if something inside of us has been cross wired, and in most cases it has and it’s that simple. The person who over spends, over eats, over does everything and anything, has made a connection or association between the need to feel good (warm and fuzzy) and a behaviour that very often involves the compulsive need for instant gratification.   No one goes out in life saying I am going to do this to myself, oh what fun it will be to give myself a hard time; 

Our lives today are a result of subconscious and conscious choices, and these choices are driven by our needs base first and secondly by our value and ethics base.   Instant gratification is a part of every day life, and this is what I call the “feel good now ~ pay later,” syndrome.  We go out and buy that new shirt when we cant afford it, spend the rent money going to the club, or do something equally as inappropriate, convincing ourselves, “I’ll catch up next pay day, it will be ok.” But do we ever catch up?  And what ultimately ends up happening to us after we have indulged, “we feel lousy and spend days beating our selves up in our self talk and telling ourselves how stupid it was.”   

The need to feel good, is often an addiction in itself, people throw thousands of $ at self help products and workshops to try to attain it, they rush from relationship to relationship in search of eternal bliss, and spend hard earned cash on things that they don’t really need desperately trying to fill the gap in their soul, when in fact the one thing and only thing they need is to learn to nurture their selves and live with self respect.   The latest craze “the Secret,” is making squillions of $ for the writers, and rightly so they found a fantastic marketing tool and went for it, but how does it honestly relate to the lives of every day people?  Is getting everything you want as simple as, imagining it, owning it and then expecting the universe to hand it to you?  I wish it were. 

For some people maybe this is the case, however I believe the real secret to happiness and feeling good about your life is much simpler, it’s really about simply liking the person you are, and having trust and confidence in yourself and your choices.    It sounds so easy doesn’t it?  Strangely enough it really is that simple, it’s so simple that most people over look it.  I can hear people now saying, “Nurture myself,” what sort of crap is that?  “Self respect,” I respect myself but the problem is no one else does! It’s the relatives that are the problem, or, I don’t have the right job, or, the boss hates me, or, I married too young, or, or, or…….  All of the “or’s” are just lame excuses or lies we tell ourselves to convince ourselves, “there is nothing wrong with me.”  Am I right?   

When you get right back down to basics of life, a person with out self respect is always going to be looking towards someone or something else to make them feel good about their life.   So without thinking about it often people try to gain the feeling good through the money, sex, drugs or what ever is available, but ultimately they are just a temporary substitute that keeps us distracted from dealing with the real issues. In reality our Spiritual Self will keep presenting us with one challenge after another until we come back to understanding our truth, and living aligned to that truth. Growing is often painful and challenging, it does hurt to look in the mirror and see the truth, and yet its only when we do that that we have the real opportunity presented to us - to grow and discover our potential or stay the same and keep spinning those wheels.